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10 Principles About Life to Look at Every Day.

June 16, 2015

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1. Bad situations in life are only temporary.

“If you are going through hell, keep going.” ~ Winston Churchill

Life is messy—bad things happen to good people. We all face hardships, but what makes us human is the ability to bounce back. We can become more resilient than we were before. Some things happen that we have no control over.

You can find strength in situations that you never thought possible if you just keep moving forward.

2. Be open and compassionate.

“A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.” ~ Albert Einstein

Sometime events occur in your life that cause you to close. You assume every situation is going to occur the same way: if you were hurt once, you will be hurt again. This is not true. It’s better to forgive than to hold a grudge.

 3. Things aren’t going to always work out the way you plan.

“In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s mind there are few. ” ~ Shunryu Suzuki

Don’t approach life with expectations of how things should or shouldn’t be. So many conflicts in life occur because someone is attached to a plan on how things should or shouldn’t work.

It’s alright to have goals, aspirations and dreams, but you don’t have to be set on a particular outcome. Sometimes the worst tragedies in people’s life turn out to be the best.

 4. People’s opinions of you are not who you are.

 “If someone isn’t what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.” ~ Paulo Coelho 

Some people might say terrible things to you—who cares!? They might make a comment on your work, or your blog post. There’s no reason you need internalize it. Some people aren’t conscious of the things they say to people. So just be compassionate towards them.

 5. You’re going to fail at things.

“Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Fail, fail and fail some more. Find inspiration in children, how many times does a child fail before they get something right, children are constantly trying new things and failing. Learn from them!

Go out and try new things! No one has ever been good at something without failing.

 6. Find a reason to laugh every day.

“A day without laughter is a day wasted.” ~ Charlie Chaplin

I think there is no greater mood lifter than to find a way to laugh every day. Find people every day to have a good laugh with.

 7. Some days are good; some days are bad.

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them—that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” ~ Lao Tzu

I one time was in line at a bank, and I heard something that changed my life. The clerk said to a customer, “How’s business?” The customer responded, “Some days good, some days bad.” Then the customer smiled.

You’re not your car; you’re not your fear; you’re not your feelings. Some days you will have good feelings, some days you will have bad feelings.

8. Do what you love every day.

“Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love.” ~ Rumi

If you’re a writer, do it every day. If you’re a musician, do it every day. If you’re an actor, do it every day. If you’re a bobsledder, do it every day.

Whatever you like to do—just do it. But make sure you do it every day. Because if you do it every day you’ll become good at it, and when you’re good at something you can make a living out of it, if you decide to.

Who do you need permission from—your friends? This is not their life. This is your life. Do what you love to do.

9. Find some time to do some meditation.

“I have so much to accomplish today that I must meditate for two hours instead of one.” ~ Gandhi

I don’t care if you hate spirituality and you think meditation is for people that live on top of a mountain and eat plants. You might just feel better if you take some time throughout the day to close your eyes and check in with your breathing.

If you think meditation is weird—that’s your opinion—it doesn’t mean it’s right. There are over 3,000 studies on the effects of meditation and over 2,500 years of Eastern philosophy behind it. I don’t understand why everyone in the world doesn’t at least try meditation. I think the world would be a better place.

 10. Be a rebel—with a cause.

“I rebel; therefore I exist.” ~ Albert Camus

Break the rules. Who cares?! Don’t get arrested for doing anything illegal, but it’s alright to break the rules. Anyone who ever did anything worth doing was a trouble maker. Steve Jobs—trouble maker. Albert Einstein—trouble maker. Amelia Earhart—trouble maker. It’s alright to be a troublemaker and break free from the status quo.

About Robert Piper

Robert Piper is a speaker, writer, specialist in Eastern meditation systems, and an advocate for a happier society. His new book is called Meditation Muscle: America’s New Workout for the Mind to Increase Happiness, Build Resiliency, and Excel Under Pressure. You can find him at his website robertpiper.org on Facebook and Twitter. 

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Over 50’s Fitness by Glen Barnett – Benefits of Tai Chi

December 16, 2014

Tai Chi is a low impact, relaxing form of exercise that has been described as the ‘longevity exercise’ for its health benefits. It blends mental, spiritual and physical aspects into 19 movements and one pose.
Tai Chi devotees can be seen in the park, at the beach and in many fitness environments and health care facilities.    Tai Chi is traditionally done standing but can be adjusted for those who need to remain seated. It requires no equipment, nor a special environment. If you can’t get to a class there are many good Tai Chi videos on You Tube to teach you, so you can do Tai Chi in your own home.
Some of its health benefits include:

Relieves mental and physical stress
Promotes deeper breathing
Improves lower body strength and stamina
Reduces arthritis pain
Reduces blood pressure
Requires mind and body integration through mental imagery
Helps release endorphins (our happy hormones) rather than depleting them
Improves concentration and alertness
Improves balance and lower body stability

The structure of Tai Chi helps you stay focused and it becomes a therapeutic series of flowing movements that create peace and harmony throughout your body and mind.   It follows the 70% rule which means you only do 70% of what you can do. This rule of moderation is especially important for some older adults whose bodies aren’t able to recover as quickly from strains or overuse injuries.
If you are recovering from injury and thinking of taking up a form of exercise, Tai Chi may be a good stepping stone for you. By following the 70% rule you will give your body a chance to heal and to regain mobility. From there don’t let your Tai Chi sessions slip away, instead let it become the curative compliment to your more strenuous daily or weekly activities.
Balance can become an issue as we age which can result in a lack of physical confidence.  Tai Chi in conjunction with other forms of strength and weight shifting exercises, will help your balance, coordination and confidence.  Focusing on energy flow to and from your legs will improve your strength and mobility.  This combined with the rhythmic gentle breathing Tai Chi promotes makes it a very restorative form of exercise much needed in today’s rushed and frantic world.   We often assume if we are not huffing and puffing we are not doing much for our bodies. Regular Tai Chi will do a whole lot more for you than you may realise.  As Confucius said “Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated”.
If you’d like to gain more out of your life then call Glen or Jacqui at Coffs Coast Health Club on 66586222 for a free session.

Coffs Coast Health Club eNews – September 2014

September 2, 2014

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Exclusive Worlds Best Health Supplements HAVE ARRIVED!

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Our quest to find the healthiest all natural supplements on the planet took us overseas earlier this year and it may have taken us six months to organise it but finally they have arrived. We tasted and researched over 100 different products before we decided who we would align our brand with. We are now pleased to announce that we hold the exclusive license on the Coffs Coast for the Nano range of products from BioPharma Scientific.
 
Their patented SuperSorb® delivery system allows your body to absorb the maximum amount of the nutritional value for better results, guaranteed. In addition, all of their products are non-GMO, organic, and 100% plant based with absolutely zero synthetic ingredients. They are based on new, scientifically-advanced, physician grade formulas with the highest quality ingredients sourced from the cleanest parts of the world.

Let’s just say their 
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products do all the talking for themselves.

BioPharmaSc’s four most popular products are NanoGreens, NanoProtein, NanoEPA Fish Oil and NanoLean. They can now be purchased through reception individually or as a four pack for 5% OFF.
 
Did you know? Each serve of NanoGreens has the equivalent of 10 serves of organic fruit and vegetables! Have a chat to your trainer about which products are most appropriate for your needs.
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Member Appreciation Day Was Fantastic!

Thank you to everyone that participated last month on Member Appreciation Day. The classes, the events, the offers & the atmosphere around the club was amazing.

We still have a number of Foundation Member gifts for collection at reception,
so if you were a member on 31st October 2009 & are still a member now, please see the reception team to collect your gift.

The feedback was so positive on the day that we will be making it an annual event.
Days like this are a true testament to the quality of our Coffs Coast Health Club community.

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Last 2014 Personal Trainer Course STARTING SOON!

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The Australian Institute of Personal Trainers is proud to introduce their NEW Certificate IV in Fitness – Complete Personal Trainer and Diploma of Business qualifications package.
 

Fast Track Oct 2014

Start a career as a Personal Trainer and gain the necessary skills to run and manage your own successful fitness business.
 
The Certificate IV in Fitness – Complete Personal Trainer qualification will allow you to gain hands-on practical experience while being able to complete the theory component online and in your own time.
 
As part of your qualification package, you will also complete the Diploma of Business building on the units you completed within your Certificate IV in Fitness and will help you to develop your skills across a wide range of business functions including managing your own business through to being a program coordinator or business manager within a larger business.
 
The Diploma of Business is VET FEE-HELP* approved, so you can study now and pay later – with no time lost!
 
Contact Tracy Welsh, your local campus manager directly on 0429 695 096 for further information.
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Short Term Workout Options for Friends & Family!

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Do you have friends or family that are in town during the school holidays? Would you like to save them some money & get them working out with you? Well due to popular demand we are now offering some short term workout options for them…
 
Single Visit – adult only $15, student or baby boomer only $10, incl access during all supervised hours
Week Pass – adult only $29, student or baby boomer only $19, incl access during all supervised hours
 
See reception or call 6658 6222 to take advantage of these offers for a limited time.
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Kids Club at FIA World Rally Championship!

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The FIA World Rally Championship is coming to Coffs Harbour and Coffs Coast Kids Club will be in the Kids Zone which is part of the FREE fanzone site at the Coffs International Stadium. 
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Among all of the awesome rally events there will also be Kids Yoga and Kids Zumba taking place, Smurfs to play with and lots of Coffs Coast Health Club balloons being given out.  
Saturday: KIDS ZUMBA at 11.30am, KIDS YOGA at 12.15pm,
KIDS ZUMBA at 1.00pm & KIDS YOGA at 1.45pm.
Sunday: KIDS ZUMBA at 11.30am & KIDS YOGA at 12.30pm.
Come along, say hi & have some fun!
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Attack that Summer swimsuit!

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Spring is the perfect time to work on your health and fitness as the warmer weather gets you motivated and inspired to get on track before summer. 
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Why not try a class that is guaranteed to get you fitter, stronger, leaner and healthier? 
 
ATTACK is the high energy sports inspired cardio class that builds strength and stamina and it is on our timetable on Wednesdays at 6.30pm, Thursdays at 9.30am, Fridays at 5.30pm and Saturdays at 8.30am. 
 
There are options to suit everyone so that you can work within your limits and succeed. Give it a try today!
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Help Simone Ride To Conquer Cancer!

simone 2Please help our very own Weight Loss Coach, Childminder & Personal Trainer Simone raise funds for her Ride to Conquer Cancer, a 200 km ride over 2 days, with funds benefiting Chris O’Brien Lifehouse Cancer Research at RPA

 
There will be a delicious 2 course lunch and a silent auction to assist with getting Simone to the start line.
This will be held on Saturday 20th 

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September from 12:00 pm to 2:00 pm at Surf Club Restaurant & Bar. The cost is only $35 per head and with some great lucky door prizes and raffle tickets on offer. It will be a fun event!
 
We are asking everyone to bring something “new” for the silent auction table. You can bring more than one thing if you like, but we’ll have everything set up on the deck for bidding to take place. All items will start at a reserve price of $10.  
 
If you can’t make it to the lunch, please visit her fund-raising page here & donate any amount as it all helps.

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Pilates Is Here!

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Join in a 12 week Classical Pilates Group Class with a modern twist and reap the rewards.
Pilates dramatically transforms the way your body looks, feels and performs. Give Jacqui 30 minutes of your time once a week and she will
give you the tools to help you build your strength without bulk, make you more aware of your body than you have ever been, improve your posture,
your grace, your flexibility and flatten your stomach in 12 weeks.
$20 a week will be money worth spent to learn valuable mind and body skills that will last you a lifetime.
First class is FREE.

When:     Starts Wed 3rd September

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Time:      10.00am – 10.30am

Where:    Upstairs Circuit & Boxing Studio

Cost:        $20/week

Register:  Reception on 6658 6222 or Jacqui directly on 0421 971 155 or via jacqui@coffscoasthc.com.au but be quick as there are only 7 spots available.

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12 Week Body Makeover Challenge!

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From just $20 a week, Healthy Inspirations are offering you the opportunity to transform yourself before Summer. Reveal the new summer you by taking part in our Body Makeover Challenge.
 
Here are the top 5 reasons to join the challenge:
1.  Lose up to 12kgs
2.  Easy No Hunger Reset Program
3.  Get Accountability with One on One or Group Body Makeover Coaching
4.  Summer is only 12 weeks away
5.  The winner receives a Total Makeover to complete the transformation
 
When:       Starts Monday 1st September
                 Ends Sunday 30th November
Register:   Call or drop in to see Simone 0402 202 864 or Leslie 0423 284 421 in the Healthy Inspirations office
 
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Kids School Holiday Massage Sessions!

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Book your kids into our School Holiday Massage Sessions, so they can learn the basics of massage while you have your workout. Research shows that children that practice massage become calmer, more concentrated and less 

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aggressive – what more could you ask for during the holidays?
 
When:       Monday 22nd September 5.30-6.30pm and/or
                 Thursday 25th September 9.30-10.30am
Cost:         $10 per child plus $5 if accompanied by a parent
Age:          6-12 years
Register:   Call reception on 6658 6222 or drop in to see Angela 0417 675 319 in the Upstairs Massage Room.
 
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Personal Trainer Traineeship NOW AVAILABLE!

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Yes its that time already… Our wonderful Director of First Impressions
Emily Hodgens will be leaving our frontline soon to continue her study at University. 
 
This means that we will be once again giving one lucky person the opportunity to become a Personal Trainer and gain twelve months work experience in
the regions most awarded health club.
 
We accept applications from anyone of any age with any background, as long as they have a wonderful work ethic and a desire to service our magnificent members. 
 
If you or anyone you know is interested in this exciting career opportunity,
please forward this email to them, get them to complete the application form here & drop
it in to reception before Sunday 7th September.
 
 
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SAVE THIS DATE! Friday 28th November – Members & Guest Christmas Party!

imagesClick here for more information on membership, personal training, weight loss, massage therapy, rehabilitation, group exercise, childminding, privileges card & fitness careers or call us on 6658 6222 for more help.

Invite your friends for a FREE TRIAL & grab yourself a new training buddy!

 

Sincerely,

Your CCHC Team

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Benefits of Mindfulness

July 29, 2014

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Practices for Improving Emotional
& Physical Well-Being

 

Understanding mindfulness

Key Points

  • Practicing mindfulness improves both mental and physical health.
  • Mindfulness involves both concentration (a form of meditation) and acceptance. Deliberately pay attention to thoughts and sensations without judgment.
  • It takes practice to become comfortable with mindfulness techniques. If one method doesn’t work for you, try another.

It’s a busy world. You fold the laundry while keeping one eye on the kids and another on the television. You plan your day while listening to the radio and commuting to work, and then plan your weekend. But in the rush to accomplish necessary tasks, you may find yourself losing your connection with the present moment—missing out on what you’re doing and how you’re feeling. Did you notice whether you felt well-rested this morning or that forsythia is in bloom along your route to work?

Mindfulness is the practice of purposely focusing your attention on the present moment—and accepting it without judgment. Mindfulness is now being examined scientifically and has been found to be a key element in happiness.

Ancient roots, modern applications

The cultivation of mindfulness has roots in Buddhism, but most religions include some type of prayer or meditation technique that helps shift your thoughts away from your usual preoccupations toward an appreciation of the moment and a larger perspective on life.

Professor emeritus Jon Kabat-Zinn, founder and former director of the Stress Reduction Clinic at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center, helped to bring the practice of mindfulness meditation into mainstream medicine and demonstrated that practicing mindfulness can bring improvements in both physical and psychological symptoms as well as positive changes in health attitudes and behaviors.

Mindfulness improves well being

  • Increasing your capacity for mindfulness supports many attitudes that contribute to a satisfied life.
  • Being mindful makes it easier to savor the pleasures in life as they occur, helps you become fully engaged in activities, and creates a greater capacity to deal with adverse events.
  • By focusing on the here and now, many people who practice mindfulness find that they are less likely to get caught up in worries about the future or regrets over the past, are less preoccupied with concerns about success and self-esteem, and are better able to form deep connections with others.

Mindfulness improves physical health

If greater well-being isn’t enough of an incentive, scientists have discovered the benefits of mindfulness techniques help improve physical health in a number of ways. Mindfulness can:

  • help relieve stress
  • treat heart disease
  • lower blood pressure
  • reduce chronic pain
  • improve sleep
  • alleviate gastrointestinal difficulties

Mindfulness improves mental health

In recent years, psychotherapists have turned to mindfulness meditation as an important element in the treatment of a number of problems, including:

  • depression
  • substance abuse
  • eating disorders
  • couples’ conflicts
  • anxiety disorders
  • obsessive-compulsive disorder

Some experts believe that mindfulness works, in part, by helping people to accept their experiences—including painful emotions—rather than react to them with aversion and avoidance.

It’s become increasingly common for mindfulness meditation to be combined with psychotherapy, especially cognitive behavioral therapy. This development makes good sense, since both meditation and cognitive behavioral therapy share the common goal of helping people gain perspective on irrational, maladaptive, and self-defeating thoughts.

Mindfulness Techniques
There is more than one way to practice mindfulness, but the goal of any mindfulness technique is to achieve a state of alert, focused relaxation by deliberately paying attention to thoughts and sensations without judgment. This allows the mind to refocus on the present moment. All mindfulness techniques are a form of meditation.
Basic mindfulness meditation – Sit quietly and focus on your natural breathing or on a word or “mantra” that you repeat silently. Allow thoughts to come and go without judgment and return to your focus on breath or mantra.
Body sensations – Notice subtle body sensations such as an itch or tingling without judgment and let them pass. Notice each part of your body in succession from head to toe.
Sensory – Notice sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and touches. Name them “sight,” “sound,” “smell,” “taste,” or “touch” without judgment and let them go.
Emotions – Allow emotions to be present without judgment. Practice a steady and relaxed naming of emotions: “joy,” “anger,” “frustration.”Accept the presence of the emotions without judgment and let them go.
Urge surfing – Cope with cravings (for addictive substances or behaviors) and allow them to pass. Notice how your body feels as the craving enters. Replace the wish for the craving to go away with the certain knowledge that it will subside.

Meditation and other practices that foster mindfulness

Mindfulness can be cultivated through mindfulness meditation, a systematic method of focusing your attention.

You can learn to meditate on your own, following instructions in books or on tape. However, you may benefit from the support of an instructor or group to answer questions and help you stay motivated. Look for someone using meditation in a way compatible with your beliefs and goals.

If you have a medical condition, you may prefer a medically oriented program that incorporates meditation. Ask your physician or hospital about local groups. Insurance companies increasingly cover the cost of meditation instruction.

Getting started on your own

Some types of meditation primarily involve concentration—repeating a phrase or focusing on the sensation of breathing, allowing the parade of thoughts that inevitably arise to come and go. Concentration meditation techniques, as well as other activities such as tai chi or yoga, can induce the well-known relaxation response, which is very valuable in reducing the body’s response to stress.

Mindfulness meditation builds upon concentration practices. Here’s how it works:

  • Go with the flow. In mindfulness meditation, once you establish concentration, you observe the flow of inner thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations without judging them as good or bad.
  • Pay attention. You also notice external sensations such as sounds, sights, and touch that make up your moment-to-moment experience. The challenge is not to latch onto a particular idea, emotion, or sensation, or to get caught in thinking about the past or the future. Instead you watch what comes and goes in your mind, and discover which mental habits produce a feeling of well-being or suffering.
  • Stay with it. At times, this process may not seem relaxing at all, but over time it provides a key to greater happiness and self-awareness as you become comfortable with a wider and wider range of your experiences.

Practice acceptance

Above all, mindfulness practice involves accepting whatever arises in your awareness at each moment. It involves being kind and forgiving toward yourself.

Some tips to keep in mind:

  • Gently redirect. If your mind wanders into planning, daydream, or criticism, notice where it has gone and gently redirect it to sensations in the present.
  • Try and try again. If you miss your intended meditation session, you simply start again.

By practicing accepting your experience during meditation, it becomes easier to accept whatever comes your way during the rest of your day.

Cultivate mindfulness informally

In addition to formal meditation, you can also cultivate mindfulness informally by focusing your attention on your moment-to-moment sensations during everyday activities. This is done by single-tasking—doing one thing at a time and giving it your full attention. As you floss your teeth, pet the dog, or eat an apple, slow down the process and be fully present as it unfolds and involves all of your senses.

Exercises to try on your own

If mindfulness meditation appeals to you, going to a class or listening to a meditation tape can be a good way to start. In the meantime, here are two mindfulness exercises you can try on your own.

Practicing mindfulness meditation

This exercise teaches basic mindfulness meditation.

  1. Sit on a straight-backed chair or cross-legged on the floor.
  2. Focus on an aspect of your breathing, such as the sensations of air flowing into your nostrils and out of your mouth, or your belly rising and falling as you inhale and exhale.
  3. Once you’ve narrowed your concentration in this way, begin to widen your focus. Become aware of sounds, sensations, and your ideas.
  4. Embrace and consider each thought or sensation without judging it good or bad. If your mind starts to race, return your focus to your breathing. Then expand your awareness again.

Invest in yourself

The effects of mindfulness meditation tend to be dose-related — the more you do, the more effect it usually has. Most people find that it takes at least 20 minutes for the mind to begin to settle, so this is a reasonable way to start. If you’re ready for a more serious commitment, Jon Kabat-Zinn recommends 45 minutes of meditation at least six days a week. But you can get started by practicing the techniques described here for shorter periods.

Learning to stay in the present

A less formal approach to mindfulness can also help you to stay in the present and fully participate in your life. You can choose any task or moment to practice informal mindfulness, whether you are eating, showering, walking, touching a partner, or playing with a child or grandchild. Attending to these points will help:

  • Start by bringing your attention to the sensations in your body
  • Breathe in through your nose, allowing the air downward into your lower belly. Let your abdomen expand fully.
  • Now breathe out through your mouth
  • Notice the sensations of each inhalation and exhalation
  • Proceed with the task at hand slowly and with full deliberation
  • Engage your senses fully. Notice each sight, touch, and sound so that you savor every sensation.

When you notice that your mind has wandered from the task at hand, gently bring your attention back to the sensations of the moment.

 

First viewed here: http://www.helpguide.org/harvard/mindfulness.htm
Adapted with permission from Positive Psychology: Harnessing the Power of Happiness, Personal Strength, and Mindfulness, a special health report published by Harvard Health Publications.

40 Ways to Let Go & Feel Less Pain

December 22, 2013

"One of the simplest ways to stay happy is... letting go of the things that make you sad." #happiness quotes #happy

“If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.” ~Ajahn Chah

Eckhart Tolle believes we create and maintain problems because they give us a sense of identity. Perhaps this explains why we often hold onto our pain far beyond its ability to serve us.

We replay past mistakes over and over again in our head, allowing feelings of shame and regret to shape our actions in the present. We cling to frustration and worry about the future, as if the act of fixation somehow gives us power. We hold stress in our minds and bodies, potentially creating serious health issues, and accept that state of tension as the norm.

Though it may sound simple, Ajahn Chah’s advice speaks volumes.

There will never be a time when life is simple. There will always be time to practice accepting that. Every moment is a chance to let go and feel peaceful. Here are forty ideas to get started:

Let Go Of Frustration with Yourself/Your Life

1. Learn a new skill instead of dwelling on the skills you never mastered.

2. Change your perception—see the root cause as a blessing in disguise.

3. Cry it out. According to Dr. William Frey II, PH.D., biochemist at the Ramset Medical Center in Minneapolis, crying away your negative feelings releases harmful chemicals that build up in your body due to stress.

4. Channel your discontent into an immediate positive action—make some calls about new job opportunities, or walk to the community center to volunteer.

5. Use meditation or yoga to bring you into the present moment (instead of dwelling on the past or worrying about the future).

6. Make a list of your accomplishments—even the small ones— and add to it daily. You’ll have to let go of a little discontentment to make space for this self-satisfaction.

7. Visualize a box in your head labeled “Expectations.” Whenever you start dwelling on how things should be or should have been, mentally shelve the thoughts in this box.

8. Engage in a physical activity. Exercise decreases stress hormones and increases endorphins, chemicals that improve your state of mind.

9. Focus all your energy on something you can actually control instead of dwelling on things you can’t.

10. Express your feelings through a creative outlet, like blogging or painting. Add this to your to-do list and cross it off when you’re done. This will be a visual reminder that you have actively chosen to release these feelings.

Let go of Anger and Bitterness

11. Feel it fully. If you stifle your feelings, they may leak out and affect everyone around you—not just the person who inspired your anger. Before you can let go of any emotion, you have to feel it fully.

12. Give yourself a rant window. Let yourself vent for a day before confronting the person who troubled you. This may diffuse the hostility and give you time to plan a rational confrontation.

13. Remind yourself that anger hurts you more than the person who upset you, and visualize it melting away as an act of kindness to yourself.

14. If possible, express your anger to the person who offended you. Communicating how you feel may help you move on. Keep in mind that you can’t control how to offender responds; you can only control how clearly and kindly you express yourself.

15. Take responsibility. Many times when you’re angry, you focus on what someone else did that was wrong, which essentially gives away your power. When you focus on what you could have done better, you often feel empowered and less bitter.

16. Put yourself in the offender’s shoes. We all make mistakes, and odds are you could have easily slipped up just like your husband, father, or friend did. Compassion dissolves anger.

17. Metaphorically throw it away. For example, jog with a backpack full of tennis balls. After you’ve built up a bit of rush, toss the balls one by one, labeling each as a part of your anger. (You’ll need to retrieve these—litter angers the earth!)

18. Use a stress ball, and express your anger physically and vocally when you use it. Make a scrunched up face or grunt. You may feel silly, but this allows you to actually express what you’re feeling inside.

19. Wear a rubber band on your wrist, and gently flick it when you start obsessing on angry thoughts. This trains your mind to associate that type of persistent negativity with something unpleasant.

20. Remind yourself these are your only three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it. These acts create happiness; holding onto bitterness never does.

Let Go Of Past Relationships

21. Identify what the experience taught you to help develop a sense of closure.

22. Write everything you want to express in a letter. Even if you choose not to send it, clarifying your feelings will help you come to terms with reality as it is now.

23. Remember both the good and the bad. Even if appears this way now, the past was not perfect. Acknowledging this may minimize your sense of loss. As Laura Oliver says, “It’s easier to let go of a human than a hero.”

24. Un-romanticize the way you view love. Of course you’ll feel devastated if you believe you lost your soul mate. If you think you can find a love that amazing or better again, it will be easier to move on.

25. Visualize an empowered single you—the person you were before meeting your last love. That person was pretty awesome, and now you have the chance to be him or her again.

26. Create a space that reflects your present reality. Take down his pictures; delete her emails from your saved folder.

27. Reward yourself for small acts of acceptance. Get a facial after you delete his number from your phone, or head out with friends after putting all her things in a box.

28. Hang this statement somewhere you can see it. “Loving myself means letting go.”

29. Replace your emotional thoughts with facts. When you think, “I’ll never feel loved again!” don’t resist that feeling. Instead, move on to another thought, like “I learned a new song for karaoke tonight.”

30. Use the silly voice technique. According to Russ Harris, author of The Happiness Trap, swapping the voice in your head with a cartoon voice will help take back power from the troubling thought.

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31. Use a deep breathing technique, like ujayii, to soothe yourself and seep into the present moment.

32. Immerse yourself in a group activity. Enjoying the people in your life may help put your problems in perspective.

33. Consider this quotation by Eckhart Tolle: “Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose.” Questioning how your stress serves you may help you let it go.

34. Metaphorically release it. Write down all your stresses and toss the paper into your fireplace.

35. Replace your thoughts. Notice when you begin thinking about something that stresses you so you can shift your thought process to something more pleasant, like your passion for your hobby.

36. Take a sauna break. Studies reveal that people who go to sauna at least twice a week for ten to thirty minutes are less stressed after work than others with similar jobs who don’t.

37. Imagine your life 10 years from now. Then look twenty years into the future, and then thirty. Realize that many of the things you’re worrying about don’t really matter in the grand scheme of things.

38. Organize your desk. According to Georgia Witkin, assistant director of psychiatry at Mount Sinai School of Medicine, completing a small task increases your sense of control and decreases your stress level.

39. Use it up. Make two lists: one with the root causes of your stress, and one with actions to address them. As you complete these tasks, visualize yourself utilizing and depleting your “stress supply.”

40. Laugh it out. Research shows that laughter soothes tension, improves your immune system, and even eases pain. If you can’t relax for long, start with just ten minutes watching a funny video on YouTube.

It’s a long list, but there’s much left to be said! Can you think of anything to add to this list—other areas of life where we need to practice letting go, and other techniques to start doing it right now?

Article written By Lori Deschene, sourced from: http://tinybuddha.com/blog/40-ways-to-let-go-and-feel-less-pain/